“When the Room Feeds on You”

When the Room Feeds on You:

Alchemy, Energy, and the Unspoken Truth of Groups

I speak from extensive experience and many years of direct learning, which informs what I will share.

There’s something rarely said in spiritual or psychic circles

But always felt by those who carry precise  frequency:

Some groups don’t hold your energy.

They feed off it.

You walk in, open, generous, attuned.

And suddenly, everything “lifts.”

The facilitator glows brighter.

The shares go deeper.

The session feels “electric.”

But what actually happened?

Your energy fed the field.

Not out of generosity but through unconscious extraction.

This isn’t about bitterness.

It’s about energetic hygiene.

Because not everyone is aware of their energy.

Not everyone is clean in their frequency.

And not everyone should be touching spiritual food with contaminated fingers.

But they do all the time.

And because energy doesn’t lie, just like mould doesn’t lie, and fungus doesn’t lie, the result is clear:

The frequency shifts.

The environment changes.

And those carrying the clearest charge often walk away drained, unseen, and unacknowledged.

This is not personal. It is about a pure understanding of chemistry and its alchemical.

Alchemy knows:

• Contamination spreads even without intention.

• A sour jar can spoil the entire batch.

• Unclean touch transmits its echo, no matter how holy the intention.

You can’t hide energy.

You can’t fake coherence.

You can’t package clarity without carrying it cleanly.

And this is the truth:

Most groups are not trained in energetic hygiene.

They don’t know how to seal a container.

They don’t know how to honour the field holders, hold a frequency, or keep it clean, clear, and stable.

They’re so busy trying to “activate” that they forget:

True alchemy never takes without giving.

Groups can quickly turn into gossiping channels or outcasting forces, and the dynamic can shift as they pivot in oscillation. This is just the way Energy works. It always has and always will, and in truth, it takes master awareness to manage it well.

Emotions and personalities can be and often are unpredictable in large groups. People get triggered, and it's just a fact. Confusion can follow fast, unravelling into paths unknown. This is not healing. This is exposed pain that cannot be managed in a group dynamic without people feeling shame or judgment placed upon them, either consciously or unconsciously. So, it leads to masking to satisfy your peers and stirring an essential message that when energy is too open, it gets very entangled, where you don't know what's yours and what you're picking up from the room. Unless you have a deep understanding of yourself individually, how your energy works, and what it feels like to be both fed and siphoned.  You won't know, and you'll be left confused, wondering why and what happened.

So, if you’ve left groups feeling invisible but weirdly tired,

If you’ve sensed your field being used but your presence ignored,

You’re not imagining it.

You weren’t too much.

You weren’t too sensitive.

You were simply clearer than the space could handle.

And now you know:

You don’t need to belong where you’re being drained.

You don’t need to pay the charge to carry it out.

You don’t need to uplift those who don’t even see you.

Because the real alchemists?

They don’t contaminate the food.

They keep the field clean.

And they know that coherence, once touched, changes everything.

Why I No Longer Join Spiritual Groups

(And Why I Believe One-to-One Is Sacred Again)

Because these are not clean containers.

They are unconscious siphoning loops disguised as healing spaces.

They draw in sensitive, powerful souls

• Not to uplift,

• But to harvest their frequency

and wrap it around someone else’s product, platform, or “support.”

You don’t need a group to be psychic.

You don’t need a group class to open your field.

You don’t need a club to validate your knowing.

You are not here to be amplified by others.

You are here to stabilise and know yourself

not as a segment in someone else’s show.

This is why one-to-one value must return.

Not as a luxury but as a remembering.

It was once sacred.

It still is.

But modern business models have dismissed and diminished this exacting truth.

Because more people in the group means more for the bottom line.

And slowly, your energy becomes a slice of someone else’s income plan.

There is nothing wrong with joining an art group.

There is nothing wrong with think tanks, shared practice, or social joy.

We love community. We’re wired for belonging.

But groups that preach personal power

while never teaching you how to clear your field, hear your soul, or anchor your own voice, they are not empowering you.

They are recycling your energy.

Real soul work is not scalable.

It’s intimate. Precise. Tender.

It is not:

• Smile when you feel sad.

• Wait your turn.

• Be polite while being unseen.

• Speak short so others can speak too.

Yes, it’s true—we do learn from others.

Sometimes, another’s voice says what we haven’t yet found words for.

Sometimes, we see ourselves more clearly through a shared reflection.

But the deeper truth?

Much of what’s called “learning” has been laced with comparison.

And comparison is the parasitic fungus that has diminished more people than it has elevated.

We weren’t learning to know ourselves.

We were learning to become someone else.

And slowly, that kind of mimicry replaced real growth.

That’s not soul education.

That’s energetic distortion.

Real soul work is:

You and the mirror.

Soul to soul.

Heart to heart.

No comparison.

No hierarchy.

No performance.

Just you

Seen. Held. Honoured.

Growing on your own terms, in your own truth.

This is what sacred containers used to be.

And this is what they must become again.

Delahrose